Have you heard of the phenomenon called the tall poppy syndrome which is endemic in our culture? Imagine you are a tall poppy growing in a field. It gets a bit lonely up there in the breeze and all the other poppies ask: “What makes you think you’re so great being up there?”
The result is that the tall poppy cuts itself down so that it can fit in with all the others. Growing tall and being proud of our achievements is not something we are encouraged to do as this is perceived as a less than attractive personality trait.
However, if we don’t believe in ourselves and our successes then this has the capacity to stunt and inhibit our growth and personal development. So are you playing yourself down, forgetting how wonderful you really are?
Imagine meeting somebody for the first time. What’s the first thing they ask us?
“What do you do?” This is a quick, shorthand way for them to suss you out to try to find some common ground. And remember, how you respond enables the other person to judge you immediately like a 20 second TV commercial. This leaves a lasting impression. How do you feel in these situations? Does it make you uncomfortable?
Or you might be one of these people who never takes time out to reflect on your achievements. You are either too busy, can’t face looking at it or take for granted what you do.
Remember too, other people see your skills and talents differently from you and often ask you to do the stuff that they perceive you to be good at. This is possibly the stuff you are always asked to do but it’s the very thing you want a change from. (Click here for a real life example)
Starting something new? Then you need to get yourself in shape like exercising a muscle that’s out of practice. You need to think about what you have achieved in your life. If this is you then it’s time to go to your computer’s hard drive. Not the one on your desk but your own memory bank. Everything is recorded in your bio computer. If you dig in deep you will be able to find a time in the past when some good stuff happened to you.
Maybe you have had some time away and you need a boost your confidence. It is not easy to be recognized for what we have done especially if what we did was some time in the past. How can you make that relevant now? Hard too, if it is something you simply take for granted now. You need to get somebody to help you realise how great your achievements have been and how they are current for now.
Perhaps you’re not sure of what you can do any more. Are you desperate for time to reflect on who you are and what you have achieved?
I find it helpful to imagine looking at myself from somebody else’s position. What would you be telling yourself about you? What would you say to yourself that you were brilliant and talented at?
If you feel that you need a hand to turn seemingly average milestones into great achievements then I would love to help you out.
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